
Islam is a religion that has placed great importance on compassion, patience, and care for others, particularly those who are facing challenges. There are many stories within Islam where our prophets have shown to us that anyone who seems to be experiencing a difficult time in their life should be met with kindness, support, and gentle reminders each day to reinforce positivity to help them overcome this trial. The concept of mercy, rahmah, is so important for us as Muslims that our Prophet Muhammad (SAW) has said in a hadith narrated within Sunan At-Tirmidhi, “Be merciful to those on the earth, and the One above will have mercy upon you.” This beautiful advice serves as a great reminder for how we should be treating those in need of extra love and understanding, especially those beautiful children who deal with autism.
Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD), or just autism for short, is a developmental condition that affects how individuals communicate, socialize, and experience their surroundings. In 2024, the Centers for Disease Control (CDC) reported that approximately 1 in 36 children in the United States is diagnosed with autism. Families that care for children with autism encounter both joys and challenges quite frequently, making it essential to approach childcare with a blend of practical strategies and spiritual mindfulness.
In this article, we will discuss tips for parents and caregivers of children with autism, integrating evidence-based practices with an Islamic perspective to establish an environment that is filled with love, patience, and growth.
To begin, every individual is considered a beautiful and unique creation of Allah (SWT) in Islam, and children with autism are no exception. Like all of our children, those with autism are still considered a beautiful trust, amanah, from Allah (SWT), and caring for them is truly a noble responsibility. In Surah Al-Baqarah, Allah (SWT) says, “Allah does not require of any soul more than what it can afford. All good will be for its own benefit, and all evil will be to its own loss (The Clear Quran®, 2:286).” Whenever you find yourself in a state of difficulty, continue repeating this verse to yourself so that it can offer you encouragement and comfort, and remind you that Allah (SWT) has granted every parent with the ability and strength needed to fulfill all duties to care for our children. While some days you may feel like giving up, it is the patience, sabr, that you uphold which only elevates your rank in front of our Lord.
Further, another important factor for parents to remember is that children with autism are not a flaw or punishment by Allah (SWT). Instead, this is part of Allah (SWT)’s divine plan, a test of patience, and this is also an opportunity to grow closer to Him through acts of compassion and devotion. So, how can we begin the process of creating a healthier lifestyle for children with autism? Here are some steps that we suggest:
- Build a routine with flexibility: Children with autism often find comfort in routines, as predictability helps reduce anxiety. Create a daily schedule that includes time for meals, learning, play, and prayer. However, remain flexible for changes, teaching your child adaptability in a gentle and supportive way.
- Focus on communication: Every child with autism communicates differently—some may speak, while others rely on gestures or visual aids. Pay attention to your child’s unique way of expressing themselves. Tools like picture boards (PECs) or sign language can be incredibly helpful. Listening with patience and validating their feelings creates that trust and connection which is essential to nurture any sort of relationship.
- Use positive reinforcement: Islam emphasizes encouraging good behavior with kindness, and the same applies here. Praise your child’s efforts and celebrate small milestones, no matter how minor they seem. This reinforces positive actions and builds their confidence.
- Create a sensory-friendly environment: Many children with autism have sensory sensitivities. Minimize loud noises, bright lights, or strong smells in your home. A calm, comfortable space can help your child feel safe and secure. Consider introducing soothing elements, such as soft lighting or quiet recitation of the Quran and nasheeds, to create a peaceful atmosphere.
- Nurture their faith: Even young children can develop a connection to Allah (SWT)! Include them in your acts of worship, such as listening to Quran recitations, listening to nasheeds or watching Islamic cartoons, allow them to join in simple duas, or participate in prayer to the best of their ability. These spiritual practices offer comfort and a sense of belonging.
- Seek support and knowledge: The Prophet (SAW) taught us the importance of seeking knowledge. Educate yourself about autism through books, workshops, or support groups. Connect with other families who share similar experiences, as they can provide valuable advice and encouragement.
While we have given tips on how to care for your child with autism, it is also equally as important that you as parents/caregivers take care of yourselves, too! This is something that can be emotionally and physically demanding. Remember to always prioritize self-care, which is not selfish at all, but essential to your wellbeing. Take time for dhikr, salaah, and personal relaxation. Surround yourself with a supportive community that understands your struggles and celebrates your victories.
“At Furqaan Academy for Exceptional Children (FAEC), we’re here to support both your child’s growth and your journey as a parent. Our community is built on faith, understanding, and care, creating a space where your family feels valued and supported,” said Ms. Ruby Ramirez, the principal of FAEC. “We’re committed to helping your children thrive academically and spiritually while offering you the guidance and encouragement you need along the way.”
The Prophet Muhammad (SAW) also emphasized the importance of seeking help when needed. Don’t hesitate to reach out to professionals, such as therapists or special educators, to ensure your child receives the support they need.
In conclusion, children with autism are a source of immense joy and barakah in their families. While the journey may have its challenges, the rewards are even greater. Remember these wise words of Prophet Muhammad (SAW), “The strong is not the one who overcomes others by strength, but the one who controls himself while in anger (Sahih Bukhari).” Patience, love, and self-control are the keys to raising children with autism while strengthening your own faith.
May Allah (SWT) grant you ease in your journey, bless your children with growth in faith and character, and reward your efforts abundantly in this world and the Hereafter. Ameen.